She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
(Proverbs 31:27 ESV)
I have sat meditating on this scripture for a long while. I have pondered and asked the Lord, "What does it mean to look well to the ways of my household?"
There are specific needs to be met physically as well. I bring this up not embarrass, but to spur you on...Ladies make sure you melting in his arms. Respond to his advances. Even pursue him. We have an enemy that is after our marriages....he knows that many times this is a weak spot in our marriages as we as women get busy, or tired, and we often neglect this specific physical need. The Lord likens the intimacy of marriage, 'Knowing" one another, to the relationship we have with Him
My husband has left me in charge while He is gone from the home. I have to look well into the time I spend on certain things. I know we have all been in that place where we realize we have sat on pinterest for to long, or we just plain haven't prioritized our days well. That leaves us frazzled and our homes and priorities out of alignment.....From a Biblical perspective we can prioritize in this way...
1. GOD
2. Husband
3. Children
4. Home
5. Church, reading, friends, etc...
1. God~ Give God the first fruits of your day. My Grandmother used to say that you would know when you were in love because that person would be the last thing on your mind as you fell asleep, and the first thing on your mind when you awoke. I like to apply this to Jesus, the Lover of our souls. I personally take the time each morning to sit at His feet and read His word. I bring my heart, concerns, worries, troubles, joys, and praises to Him. I seek Him to Guide my day, and ask Him to help me look well into my home. His word is truly a light upon our path, so it is wise to come to Him and ask Him to illuminate the road ahead of us!!! He knows what our days hold and how to fill us fresh each morning.
2.Husband~ I've heard it once said that as our spouses helpers, we should be their biggest FANS!! Make sure that you are your husbands biggest supporter and encourager. We were specifically designed to meet needs within our husbands, by showing him love and support. Be His biggest cheerleader, you can almost bet you will be spurring him on in His quest to Love the Lord.
There are specific needs to be met physically as well. I bring this up not embarrass, but to spur you on...Ladies make sure you melting in his arms. Respond to his advances. Even pursue him. We have an enemy that is after our marriages....he knows that many times this is a weak spot in our marriages as we as women get busy, or tired, and we often neglect this specific physical need. The Lord likens the intimacy of marriage, 'Knowing" one another, to the relationship we have with Him
Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
(1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV)
As helpers we were also created to help him complete tasks. Or to be a finisher. My husband trusts me, alot. He does not have specific things laid out for me. The natural rhythm of our marriage is that I take care of the finances and homeschooling, bills, housekeeping, grocery shopping, meal planning, etc....There are those extra things though. Like buying his favorite soap, making his favorite meal, listening!!! when he has had a hard day, PRAYING over him, and really making sure everything is running smoothly at home....This makes a man so happy :) Go over and above to spoil your man.
We are to follow his lead. God will and does speak to our husbands about how He wants us to live our lives and order our steps. He speaks to him through trial and error and our jobs as wives, is to pray!! extend grace even if he was wrong about something! I am my husbands MOST trusted confidant, HE TRUSTS me. He does come to me and asks me what I think about situations and circumstances. We have long discussions, and we don't always agree, but we MUST always follow.
3. Children~I would like to say that a woman whom is looking well into the ways of her household, knows the comings and going ons of her children. She is well aware of what her children are reading, watching, whom they are friends with etc.... You have all heard the saying: Mom, it is like you have eyes in the back of your head. Not only is she watching what her children are involved in, but she is guiding and teaching them. We were created to explore and discover. We are given as teachers in our children's lives to guide them in the ways that they should go, and ultimately point them to God through His precious Son, Jesus. A motto in our home is: Do not merely starve the flesh...But FEED the Spirit (Ephesians 4:22-24). You are your children's suppler of spiritual needs and worth. If I see that my children are interested in things that are not pleasing to the Lord, I simply, without a fuss, replace those things with things that feed and encourage their growth of wonder :)
4. Home~ Another one of my mottos is: A home is not a home without all of the people you LOVE, in it!! It is always first important to make sure that you are meeting, supplying, and fulfilling your families needs. Relationships and souls are more important than buildings and walls. With that being said...I know that my family is so blessed with how I tend to our home. I love creating a safe Haven from the world. I take joy and pray over our little refuge. My kids and husband love seeing my new little tasks...the next big one I am going to tackle is... MY KITCHEN. I love for my home to be cozy and comfortable, and clean (schedule your cleaning while talking with a girlfriend on the phone or during naps. I also like to turn on worship music or listen to a sermon....Do ALL of these thing as unto the Lord ). Many times I will pray over my husband or children as I am folding their clothes or scrubbing the toilet. For me personally I have a few particular verses that have come in handy ministered to me as a homemaker
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
(1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 ESV)
Do all things without grumbling or disputing,
(Philippians 2:14 ESV) I love creating an environment that when my hubby comes home from work, he can take off his shoes and just relax.
Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
(Ephesians 5:15-21 ESV)
These verses remind me to be thankful!!!! To be so incredibly thankful that I have a husband and children to love!! It is a reminder when I am tired to do my tasks with a merry heart, giving thanks, not grumbling, and to be filled with the Holy Spirit.
5. Extended family, Church, friends, hobbies, etc...~ With all of the other things on your plate it can be hard to find time for these things. They are important as well. I honestly find that my ability to relax greatly increases, if all of the areas of my life have been prioritized well. I enjoy writing....It is so hard to if I have neglected God, my hubs, or my kids. Often times your children and husband can be apart of these other areas of your life. I like to serve at VBS. My oldest son usually volunteers, while my two littles get there pants blessed off, and I am serving our church family. To me that is a huge blessing!!! Play~DATES....the stay at home moms lifesaver!! I love spending time with other women!!! I am very much a quality time love language kind of girl :) Sometimes I will have single younger gals meet my at the library so my littles can play, and we can chat!! My mom friends and I schedule time for our kids to fellowship and for us to encourage and pray for one another. I am not even joking when I say, I AM A PHONE person!!! You can ask any one of my close girlfriends....I can paint, shop, clean, etc...while having deep conversations on the phone...I would rather SEE their beautiful faces, but it is just not that season of life...All of that to say I am a multi~tasking, blogging, decorating, adventurous, husband loving, God honoring, homemaking, singing, making melodies in my heart and life, mama to to three precious boys, wife to MY BEST FRIEND...Gods beloved son, and Daughter to Creator, Abba, Prince of peace, Redeemer, and friend!!!!
With all of that on our plates, I do not think we should have much time to eat the bread of idleness....but just in case...I decided to post a couple of scriptures on what the bible says about idleness.
4. Home~ Another one of my mottos is: A home is not a home without all of the people you LOVE, in it!! It is always first important to make sure that you are meeting, supplying, and fulfilling your families needs. Relationships and souls are more important than buildings and walls. With that being said...I know that my family is so blessed with how I tend to our home. I love creating a safe Haven from the world. I take joy and pray over our little refuge. My kids and husband love seeing my new little tasks...the next big one I am going to tackle is... MY KITCHEN. I love for my home to be cozy and comfortable, and clean (schedule your cleaning while talking with a girlfriend on the phone or during naps. I also like to turn on worship music or listen to a sermon....Do ALL of these thing as unto the Lord ). Many times I will pray over my husband or children as I am folding their clothes or scrubbing the toilet. For me personally I have a few particular verses that have come in handy ministered to me as a homemaker
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
(1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 ESV)
Do all things without grumbling or disputing,
(Philippians 2:14 ESV) I love creating an environment that when my hubby comes home from work, he can take off his shoes and just relax.
Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
(Ephesians 5:15-21 ESV)
These verses remind me to be thankful!!!! To be so incredibly thankful that I have a husband and children to love!! It is a reminder when I am tired to do my tasks with a merry heart, giving thanks, not grumbling, and to be filled with the Holy Spirit.
5. Extended family, Church, friends, hobbies, etc...~ With all of the other things on your plate it can be hard to find time for these things. They are important as well. I honestly find that my ability to relax greatly increases, if all of the areas of my life have been prioritized well. I enjoy writing....It is so hard to if I have neglected God, my hubs, or my kids. Often times your children and husband can be apart of these other areas of your life. I like to serve at VBS. My oldest son usually volunteers, while my two littles get there pants blessed off, and I am serving our church family. To me that is a huge blessing!!! Play~DATES....the stay at home moms lifesaver!! I love spending time with other women!!! I am very much a quality time love language kind of girl :) Sometimes I will have single younger gals meet my at the library so my littles can play, and we can chat!! My mom friends and I schedule time for our kids to fellowship and for us to encourage and pray for one another. I am not even joking when I say, I AM A PHONE person!!! You can ask any one of my close girlfriends....I can paint, shop, clean, etc...while having deep conversations on the phone...I would rather SEE their beautiful faces, but it is just not that season of life...All of that to say I am a multi~tasking, blogging, decorating, adventurous, husband loving, God honoring, homemaking, singing, making melodies in my heart and life, mama to to three precious boys, wife to MY BEST FRIEND...Gods beloved son, and Daughter to Creator, Abba, Prince of peace, Redeemer, and friend!!!!
With all of that on our plates, I do not think we should have much time to eat the bread of idleness....but just in case...I decided to post a couple of scriptures on what the bible says about idleness.
Slothfulness casts into a deep sleep,
and an idle person will suffer hunger.
(Proverbs 19:15 ESV)
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.
(1 Thessalonians 5:14 ESV)
For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies.
(2 Thessalonians 3:11 ESV)
Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
(1 Timothy 5:13 ESV)
The bible is clear of warnings for the idle person....You can suffer poverty, hunger, become gossips, and busy bodies...saying things that you should not. Do not get me wrong the bible is also clear that we should rest and not just be busy for busyness sake but may we as Proverbs 31 women be found be about our Fathers business.
and an idle person will suffer hunger.
(Proverbs 19:15 ESV)
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.
(1 Thessalonians 5:14 ESV)
For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies.
(2 Thessalonians 3:11 ESV)
Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
(1 Timothy 5:13 ESV)
The bible is clear of warnings for the idle person....You can suffer poverty, hunger, become gossips, and busy bodies...saying things that you should not. Do not get me wrong the bible is also clear that we should rest and not just be busy for busyness sake but may we as Proverbs 31 women be found be about our Fathers business.
Such a beautiful post! So ver true and I for one loved the reminder!
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